Time to LIVE

I've been reading this book, "I kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris, rather slowly, I guess because I'm afraid of the implication that comes with having received such information (",) in the sense that you are judged according to the truth you know... What you don't know won't get you into trouble. So it's a very easy, good read but I've been at it for quite a while.

I started the chapter, "the right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing"... Haven't finished it, but I started it last night. Harris raises a very good point bout how we're always rushing to the next phase of life. When we were kids we looked forward to a time when we'd be in "big school" from big school we're looking forward to high school at high school we're in that teenage "too big for life" phase, longing for university life when we're away from home. At university we wish we were working, at work we wish we were back in university but with the money that work brings then finally, u come to terms with the fact that you're working but now you want a steady relationship, marriage, a car(if you don't already have one), a house... Basically you want the Disney thing... (Meet Prince Charming and live happily ever after)... Hmmm it never works that way just by the way. There's an important phase called "singlehood" - You're probably calling me old shool in your mind right now but that's ok. The phase is still real and I believe it's quite relevant too.

The only problem with singlehood is the negative connotations that comes with not only the word but the phase in itself... Singlehood, in my own definition is a time that you dedicate to being as free as a bird ('.') hahahaha, ok not a very good definition but that's exactly how I see it and in more words, Harris says the same thing. Basically, the concept is that in this time you're available to do what you would like to do without having to answer to anyone - such things as serving in ministry, traveling for a purpose and even things that seem easy to do while you're in a relationship like praying and fasting, reading the word etc. it's not impossible to do these things when you're in a relationship but it sure is difficult.

So those of you who are still single this is a call to just enjoy the phase. I'm guilty of not enjoying the phase and constantly looking to the next, the catch though is that once you're in the phase that you were looking to, you actually want to go back to where you were. In this case you'll get that boyfriend or girlfriend and maybe sometime during the relationship you'll wish you were single. Hmmm how ironic, but in my experience it's so true!

Well, here's to enjoying the phase (.")